Love in Light of the First Law of Thermodynamics

I often attempt to explain how the disappearance of love's excitement does not imply the love's insincerity. We often accuse love for not being genuine because the spark is no longer there, the butterfly in the stomach gone.

I like to use Newton's First Law of Thermodynamics as a model to explain this phenomenon, which states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed; energy can only be transferred or changed from one form to another.

NOT DESTROYED

Yes, the euphoria of juvenile love diminishes as we mature in relationship. Although we very much enjoy each other's company, we lack the excitement and electric shock we had during out first years.
There is nothing out of the ordinary here; it is as expected. In fact, it could be a sign of growth.

The reason why the first excitement or joy fades away is to give space for a new kind of joy. The new joy does not replace the former joy, but enrich it. You may not feel the butterfly in your stomach anymore, but you have the joy of child-bearing, the joy of raising a child. When the child has grown into an adult, you will yet experience a different joy, that is in watching your children's children grow, and so on and so forth. For who can withstand a constant excitement and euphoria for a prolonged period of time? We would eventually get tired and sick of it ourselves! Like a child who eats too much candy. At first it tastes heavenly, but after days of sucking a lolly, his stomach would start to ache and the last thing he wishes to do is to have another candy.

Love changes from one form to another. When you grow old and grey, you may not possess the spark of youth, for it has been transformed into the strength of mature love, finely tested by time. It is at that moment that you may gaze into your partner's eyes and frames of moments would be projected: the moments when you were there for each other through illness, through adversaries, through disagreements. Yet above all, still you say "I would go through it all over again for you."

NOT CREATED

Back to Newton's First Law of Thermodynamics: "energy can neither be created nor destroyed [...]".
We have talked about the transformation (and not destruction) of love.

But how is love not created?
We do not create love. We do not initiate it.
Remember that we could only give what we have first received. I am able to speak for I have listened. My ability to produce sounds are mere byproducts of my sound reception. So is breathing out as to breathing in. Similarly, we are capable of loving for we are first loved. There is no way we could trully love if we have not received True Love.

The equation is reversible: no one could possibly breath in air without breathing it out. Once we have received Love, loving others would come as an eventual byproduct. Upon receiving Love, loving others will become an inevitable action. You would encounter the impulse of sharing the abundant joy you've received. You simply could not keep the explosion of joy to the self.

In fact, that is the very reason why God created this world; out of love. He created as a painter who imagines a perfect masterpiece and must bring it into reality, or as a musician who hears a symphony in his head and how this passion overflows into musical composition.

THE LOVE

So, Love is the reason for our existence. And He who created us, is the Love Himself, to Whom we must center our lives to.
Yet for this reason, some argue that He must be a selfish God for creating creatures that are capable of sinning and suffering, for the sake of His love expression.

But remember how He knew that sins and suffering will happen the moment He created us. He knew men would sin the moment He placed that tree, He knew that you and I are going to break His heart as a response to His faithfulness and providence.
But remember how He has also prepared the Remedy when He first created us: His Only Son to die on our behalf. So that we, who was created out of love, may gain eternal life through the same love.
This is the True Love which we ought to reflect in our human love. Though we often fail, we learn to forgive each other, to be self-forgetting, to be slow in anger, to strengthen each other in faith, that we may see God in another's eyes.

Alice